These hardships come from people who cause you pain, from things that give you headaches, and even from external environments that make you feel uncomfortable.
But please believe that everything that grinds you will eventually come to you.
The person who causes you pain is here to overcome you
When I had a conversation with Wei Zhe before, he said that at the age of 40, he realized a sentence called:
Noble people help you, while petty people help you.
I deeply believe so. Throughout one's life, one will always encounter people of all kinds.
Someone trusts you, helps you, supports you, is your true benefactor, but there are also people who slander you, slander you, torture you, making you feel unbearable and worse than death.
However, no matter what kind of person you are, they can always teach you something.
I still remember my first time as a manager, with 15 salespeople under my command.
After taking office, I tried my best to take care of these subordinates, but due to my lack of experience, I was unsure how to take care of them. Anyway, whenever the employees had any problems or requirements, I always went out of my way to help.
At that time, I was always under a lot of pressure as I didn't place any orders. My subordinates saw that my performance was poor and thought that I was an "incompetent" leader. So, 15 people joined forces and took an A4 paper, listing all the areas they thought I was not good at. They approached my supervisor and demanded that I be fired.
To be honest, when I saw the joint boycott letter from my subordinates, I felt very painful and my emotions were very bad. I wished I could find a hole to crawl in. Because I feel that I have put in genuine effort and am taking this team seriously.
However, my boss trusts me very much. He told me, "Cherry, you are the person I chose. I chose you because you must have excellent qualities. I believe you can do well
He asked me to write down the ten things I need to do every day, and then tell him why I need to do these things, how I plan to do them, and where I don't know, he will also tutor me.
At that time, I held my breath and secretly thought that I must do a good job in management and achieve results.
Finally, I led my team to first place, earning the trust of my subordinates and proving myself.
In life, every person you meet is here to cross you.
Someone has crossed you, giving you warmth and strength; Someone has crossed over to you, giving you experience and strength.
But whether good or bad, they are catalysts for your growth.
What gives you a headache is here to help you
Some bitterness, if you don't take the initiative to eat, it's difficult to experience the taste of sweetness after bitterness.
Some things, if you don't face them positively, will double the difficulty for you at some point in the future.
At work, you will inevitably encounter some headaches.
For example, difficulties in breaking through technology, inability to achieve performance goals, layers of obstacles from collaborative departments, and constant difficulties from customers, and so on.
However, don't blame others in the face of difficulties, and don't stop moving forward.
Because these things that give you headaches will eventually fulfill your life in some way.
For example, in the early days of founding Kyocera, Kazuo Inamori received a 10 million order from Panasonic Group.
Panasonic Group has very strict requirements for its products, with a description of up to 500 pages long. Not only are the requirements for the products strict, but there are also restrictions on delivery time, and prices are heavily reduced, leaving Kyocera with little profit to make.
The employees were quite dissatisfied with this, but Kazuo Inamori had no complaints and continued to do ideological work for the employees, encouraging them to find ways to meet Panasonic's requirements, while minimizing costs, improving production technology, and exploring new development models.
Other companies saw Panasonic's strictness as "difficult" and gave up, but Kazuo Inamori rose to the challenge and saw it as an opportunity to improve and enhance quality.
Later, when American companies sought partners in Japan, Kyocera successfully defeated other manufacturers with the advantage of "high quality and low cost" and opened up the international market smoothly.
Afterwards, when Kazuo Inamori mentioned Kyocera on many occasions, he never forgot to thank Panasonic Group. He believed that it was precisely this series of strict requirements that made Kyocera surpass the industry's level.
Ray Dalio, the founder of Bridgewater Fund, once said in "Principles":
I will experience painful moments in a completely different way. I will not feel discouraged or suffocated, but rather see pain as a reminder from nature that there are some important things I need to learn
Many times, the pain you experience at work ultimately stems from your inadequate performance and lack of ability.
Everyone has their own ability boundaries, and doing things within their abilities will make you feel very comfortable and comfortable.
When what you do exceeds your ability boundary, you will feel very frustrated and painful.
But that's not a bad thing. You need to see pain as a reminder, learn to draw strength from it, and constantly expand your ability boundaries.
You have to believe in things that give you headaches in order to truly fulfill you.
The environment that makes you uncomfortable is what makes you successful
Everyone wants to go down the path of success and hopes for a smooth journey in their life.
In fact, no one's life is smooth sailing. There will always be adversity and various obstacles.
However, facing an uncomfortable environment, how you choose and respond determines the level of your achievements.
If you are content with the status quo, bow down to fate, and raise your hand to surrender when faced with adversity, then you will definitely not be able to achieve great things.
Rockefeller, known as the 'oil king', refused to associate with both types of people from a young age.
The first type is those who completely surrender and are content with the status quo. This kind of person only laments the misfortune of fate, but never puts in all their efforts to achieve their own success.
The second type is people who cannot carry the challenge to the end. They cannot persist when faced with difficulties, fear accidents, dare not take risks, and ultimately end up in mediocrity.
So, what kind of people would Rockefeller be willing to be friends with?
The answer is those who never give in.
These people never let pessimism control everything, never succumb to various obstacles, and dare to challenge adversity, because they know that challenging adversity is the wisest direction to success.
There was a time when I felt like I had too much adversity and everything didn't go smoothly.
Later on, when I went to Hupao Spring in Hangzhou, I went to see a plaque written by Master Hongyi. Master Hongyi wrote that there are nine out of ten things in life that are not satisfactory.
In an instant, I understood that in one's life, good times and bad times alternate, and many times it is adversity, but this is normal and requires adjusting one's mentality.
So, don't have the mentality of going with the flow. When you encounter a low point or an uncomfortable environment, treat it as the best opportunity to cultivate yourself.
When you can embrace changes in the external environment, constantly improve your mentality, and evolve your own abilities, you will surely usher in a day of accumulation and development, thus achieving a better version of yourself.
Finally, to summarize: life is a practice. The people who make you suffer are here to help you; The things that give you headaches are here to fulfill you; The environments that make you feel uncomfortable are here to achieve your goals.
